“Only a habit can subdue another habit.”
– Og Mandino
What we focus on grows. This can be a self-fulling blessing or curse — your choice. Curious why those well intended New Year’s resolutions often bomb? Resolutions that aim to get rid of a habit, merely place an unintended focus on the unwanted habit. In other words, trying to not think about pink elephants is a surefire way to think about… pink elephants.
Do you scan for what’s amiss or celebrate the good? Being self-critical can be all too easy, all too routine. A freeing detour was found via Mark Januszewski’s self-reflective questions that redirected my focus from what I didn’t want to what I did want:
- What did I do right? (Celebrate, Celebrate, CELEBRATE this!)
- What can I improve upon?
Looking upon my path traveled, moments of celebration were hard to locate. Always hastily onto the new project. More truthfully, celebration of what I did right almost felt awkward. Who was I to joyously toot my horn?
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our Light, not our Darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” – Marianne Williamson
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